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🌿 Finding My Voice in a Room Full of Others

There are moments when what we need most…

feels like the very thing we are least allowed to choose.

There are seasons in life

when it feels like every voice around us

has something to say about how we should live.

Not always harsh.

Not always unkind.

But present…

steady…

and constant.

And after a while—

it becomes hard to hear our own.

And there is a kind of exhaustion

that is hard to explain to anyone else.

Not the kind that sleep alone can fix—

but the kind that settles deeper.

The kind that comes

from holding so much for so long

without setting it down.

And what makes it harder still…

is that the world around you

often keeps speaking

as though you are not tired at all.

As though you can simply keep going

without pause—

without question—

without rest.

And quietly…

you begin to feel

just how unseen

that kind of weariness can be.

Lately, I have been feeling this more than usual.

Not in a loud way…

but in a quiet, exhausting one.

The kind that settles in

when you realize

how many voices you are holding at once.

There is the voice of responsibility.

The one that reminds me

who needs me…

who depends on me…

who might struggle without me.

There is the voice of love.

The one that says,

“You are everything to me.”

And that one is tender.

Beautiful, even.

But sometimes…

it feels heavy too.

And then there are the other voices.

The ones that say,

“You can’t just step away.”

“You shouldn’t do that.”

“That wouldn’t be okay.”

Voices that may never even be spoken out loud—

and yet…

they are heard all the same.

And sometimes…

those voices carry a tone

that is harder to shake.

Not always loud—

but certain.

The kind that questions your choices

before you’ve even made them.

That quietly plants doubt

where there was once just a thought.

And after a while…

you begin to wonder

if the hesitation you feel

is even your own—

or something you’ve simply learned

to carry.

And somewhere beneath all of that…

there is my own.

Quieter now.

More hesitant than it used to be.

The one that wonders—

very softly—

if I am even capable

of making a change on my own.

I’ve found myself lately

longing for something I can’t quite explain

without feeling a little conflicted.

A place to rest.

Not just physically—

but deeply.

A place where the noise quiets

and the expectations soften.

Where I could sit with someone

who listens without needing anything in return.

Where I could write…

and think…

and maybe begin to hear myself again.

And even as I think it…

the other voices come rushing in.

“But what about everyone else?”

“How could you leave?”

“Are you even able to do something like that?”

And just like that—

the thought begins to fade

before it ever has a chance to fully form.

It’s a strange feeling…

To need something so deeply—

and yet feel

as though you are not allowed

to choose it.

There are moments when what we need most

feels like the very thing we are least allowed to choose.

I don’t have all the answers here.

I am not writing from a place

of having figured it out.

Only from a place of noticing.

Of becoming aware

of just how crowded it has become inside.

Maybe taking charge

doesn’t look the way I once thought it would.

Maybe it isn’t bold or immediate

or even visible to anyone else.

Maybe it begins…

in something much smaller.

Maybe it begins

by acknowledging the truth.

That I am tired.

That I am stretched thin.

That there is a part of me

quietly asking for care.

And maybe…

just maybe…

taking charge

is not about changing everything today—

but about allowing that quiet voice

to be heard again.

I don’t know yet

what I will do with these thoughts.

I don’t know what it will look like

to make space for them.

But I do know this—

ignoring them

has not brought peace.

So for now…

I will sit with it.

Gently.

Honestly.

Without rushing myself

to have all the answers.

Because maybe finding my voice

in a room full of others…

doesn’t begin

by silencing the room—

but by finally

listening

to the one voice

I’ve been setting aside.

In truth…

I matter.

And this desire to change

must come from listening

to God’s voice—

above every other voice in my life.

So that I do not continue

to exhaust myself

beyond the place

where true healing can begin.

Susan Thomas

In My Anywhere But Here, we hold both—

Trust in God’s voice

and the quiet work of healing within.